Tips for getting comfortable breastfeeding or chestfeeding your baby in public

It is common to feel worried about breastfeeding/chestfeeding your baby in public for the first time, and probably for a few times after that.

Some people feel self conscious about showing their body; or worried that they will get judgemental looks or even comments and it can just feel a bit daunting. You will have your own personal reasons why you are feeling this way but I hope these tips can give you some ideas to help you feel more comfortable.

Tip 1:

Practice sitting in front of a mirror while feeding your baby. You might be surprised how little of what's going on can actually be seen.

Tip 2:

Try out some nursing clothes. Not everyone feels they needs clothes specific to nursing but you might find them practical or reassuring. Some people also use covers. I had bought a cover, just in case. In the end I never opened the box.

Tip 3:

Choose a welcoming place to try it for the first time, such as a mum and baby group or even better your local breastfeeding support group.

Tip 4:

Take a friend. Have a supportive person with you especially for those first few trips out.

Tip 5:

Keep an open mind. You might be surprised how quickly your feelings change. You might be surprised how many positive reactions you get from others.

I breastfed my baby many times in public, in Scotland, I did feel self conscious at first but my confidence grew until it wasn't something I thought about anymore. It became part of my normal. This may be the moment you say- uh really, well how come your picture is clearly you on your sofa?

Well when I was breastfeeding out in public I wasn't thinking about taking pictures. I was just getting on with my day, on the bus...in a cafe...in a park. I fed my baby all over the place and I'm happy to say I didn't experience any negative reactions. I was surprised that often when staff noticed I was feeding my baby in a café they would bring me a glass of water without me asking. It was a small gesture but it meant a lot to me.

I wish everyone's experience could be as positive as mine but I know that I was lucky. I also acknowledge that LGBTQ+ parents can face additional barriers to feeling supported breastfeeding or chestfeeding in public.

If you have any tips from your own experience to share please do or any links or resources you would like to highlight. Below are some links to further information and support. Don't forget to ask your health visitor where your local support group is!

Useful links:

milkjunkies.net - blog by transgender dad Trevor MacDondald, including his experience of breastfeeding/chestfeeding in public

https://www.nationalbreastfeedinghelpline.org.uk/ - a helpline offering non-judgmental support and information, open everyday

https://maternityaction.org.uk/advice/breastfeeding-in-public-places/ - information about UK law on breastfeeding in public

https://www.breastfeedingnetwork.org.uk/breastfeeding-help/out-about/